A person who never suffers any kind of stress would be rare, and a fictional character, next to impossible. What drives interest in a story? Conflict. And with conflict comes stress.
Reactions to stress can be as simple as a single beer after dinner to mellow out from a hard day at work, or as complex and life-altering as self-destructive behaviors like drug abuse.
Both of those, and everything in between, provide tons of meat for your characters’ personalities.
So, let’s find out what sends our characters in search of their happy places. As always, “they” = the character in question, regardless of gender.
- What do they find stressful? External sources, like work, politics, illness, family, trouble with a significant personal relationship, social obligations? Internal sources, like perfectionism or poor time management or forgetfulness?
- How to they react in the moment to a stressor? Physical reactions (flight-or-flight response, upset stomach, nervous tics, for example); internal/emotional reactions (anger, anxiety, or grinning and bearing it); or some combination of both? Do they react differently to different sources of stress?
- How aware are they of their stressors, and do they actively seek to avoid them?
- What do they do to wind down after becoming stressed?
- Are there any preventative measures they take to compensate in situations they expect to be stressed?
I hope I’ve given you a new angle to come at your characters, because while they might be reacting to the conflicts of the story, you shouldn’t be stressing about how they’re going to react.